I see your shifting gaze, that disgusted glance. I know you’re questioning my parenting from across the elementary school assembly.
Let me tell you a little story about the kindergarten student with bright purple hair, my little Raven Marie…
A month before school started she decided to play hair stylist with the craft scissors, and to save what was left I had to opt for a pixie cut. She was absolutely devastated. It was about three hours before she stopped her harsh sobbing and hiccups.
She has thought that the length of a girls hair was what made her “girly”. I know I’ve personally had many hairstyles around her before, including a purple mohawk, which many people criticized as not being “girly” enough. Media, other children, other parents, and society made it worse. She would randomly burst in tears while out in public for the first week of her new style, screaming that she looked like a boy. That everyone would think she’s a boy.
At one point she took off her bow in her hair, threw it at a cashier and screamed, “I DON’T NEED THIS BOW TO TELL YOU THAT I’M NOT A BOY, BECAUSE I’M NOT”
Proudly stomping away in her blue jean overalls, head held high.
Once we edged closer to the first day of school she kept asking questions like, “Do you think the other kids will like me? Do you think they’ll be my friend? Will they think I’m a boy? Will they pick on me because I have boy hair?”
So I went to the grocery store, bought some dye, and spent the whole night transforming my bright blonde little girl into a plum punk rock fairy. I then assured her that if any of the kids didn’t like her, they were just jealous.
As for you, mothers and teachers with the wandering eyes filled with disgust and judgement, I’m in the business of raising a free spirit.
Here’s to you, Raven Marie. I love you.
You might think you are so radical and oh such a great parent for teaching your kid to be a nonconformist but all you are doing is limiting your child’s potential and brainwashing it.
Take it from an educator : kids need conformity, they need to fit in, they need to belong. Why do you think some get bullied and others don’t? At a young age our minds work on a semi primitive level. The group keeps us safe, are friends are those who are like us, we are different because our group is different. Those that stand out get bullied, get cast aside. You are setting up your kid to be judged and ridiculed.
Furthermore you teach her liberalism, feminism and other political non sense that matters to you but has no business polluting a child’s mind. Kids MUST discover things themselves, you as a parent have the OBLIGATION to take care of your kid and that includes giving them COMPLETE FREEDOM OF CHOICE. If your girl wants to fit in, to have long locks and be a house wife one day then you let her do that.
You DO NOT preach feminism to a kindergarten kid. You DO NOT push your agenda on an impressionable mind. You DO NOT set up your kid to be the school’s freak.
In other words, you are a bully to your own child. You are unfit to have a kid simply because you fail to understand basic human behavior. You know close to nothing about a child’s education and frankly the one that needs to go back to kindergarten is you.
"Your daughter should be the same as everyone else and if she doesn’t conform then it’s her own fault she gets picked on because I teach the children in my class they should be the same as everyone else instead of teaching them bullying is wrong and you shouldn’t make fun of people’s differences."